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Moving forward… but where to?

February 17, 2012 Leave a comment

This morning I went out for a quick run. I wanted to take advantage of the fact that I woke up earlier than I used to – thanks to a quake though. I noticed that many people ( at least 10) were waiting for the bus to come by. I probably have seen this people around the neighborhood before, but today it caught my attention that they all were looking desperate to get going. I started to think on the so many different reasons why they needed to get going quick; each and everyone of them with different motivation and eventually, with different outcomes.

As I saw how today’s world make us run -in the example of the people waiting for the bus, I started wondering how many of us have a clear understanding of why is that we are running. We want to get to places fast; we want to talk to people “asap”. When you start thinking on those agents that allow you to speed up everything, you need to determine if the rush is worth something or not.

There may be several reasons why you want your life to go past fast. The main idea of this note is to make you think what are the drivers that make you rush on everything and to start analyzing if there are situations that could have a slower pace. One of the most important aspects of enjoying life is to live every moment as the last one you have. If you move too fast on aspects that may be important, you will end up regretting about it in the long run.

How can you determine what are the things in life that deserve quality time? The answer to this is as varied as the opinions people have on death penalty for instance. I would suggest to consider the following points:

  • Does it impact ( or is it part already) any of your life’s ultimate goals?
  • Would it influence others positively?

By answering these simple questions you will get to narrow those aspects in your life that are worth spending time on.  Regardless of what that is, the ultimate result is that sense of fulfillment that make you proud and thankful at the same time.

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Failing is good after all

January 24, 2012 Leave a comment

A 32-yard field goal. Those that are experts in analyzing American Football may be discussing today how is it that a kicker missed such a “regular” play from this year’s AFC Championship game, between the New England Patriots and the Baltimore Ravens . This may be true even more if we consider the situation in the game: you expect a professional football player to be ready for this type of plays.

I am not a football analyst for sure. I have played the game twice at the most. However, anyone who has been down in a hole can relate to how this football player probably felt about his miss. The big question on this is: how to overcome such a failure?

Some may say “you’ll have revenge in the future” or “don’t sweat it, this is not as important as other stuff in life”. It does not matter the many ways people tell you you can do better next time, the way you feel after failing so badly does not go easily; so let’s be realistic and accept it is hard to overcome these situations. Now that you are facing things the way they are, what is it left to do? Well, not much. You may consider that I am not being very optimistic here, but I am not going to write about something that is not real to me and that is not real to many of you. From where I see it, it is healthy to have our “blue time” and it is important to dwell on it.

I consider that failure is important to all of us. To me, failure is an emotion; a feeling of losing something you really wanted. This means that you cherished that something (a project, a goal, an objective) and it moved you to do things in order to achieve it, forgetting about the fact that you were not able to.

Failure is good because it makes us stronger. Whenever you fail, your drive and pride will make you try harder next time because you really want to prove yourself and others you can do it; feeling this bad now will certainly pay off later.

Billy Cundiff (the man under the loop this time) had a 51-yard field goal made earlier this year. His longest field goal ever made was for 56 yards, so this tells us he can do better next time. He is not going to have it easy for the next months, and it may be an all-time memory for the NFL.  This feeling will make him try to do it well the first time always, and this is what makes failure good after all. Thanks for teachable moment Billy.

Everything

January 13, 2012 Leave a comment

I look at everything I have

I think about stuff I want

I judge the different things I see

I am judged by everyone around me

I hear half of what I should.

But at the end I am grateful

because I can do everything

that I just told you.

 

 

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I wish….

January 5, 2012 Leave a comment

” I wish I could start all over again”. How many times have you said that same sentence in the past? The idea of having a fresh start always captivates us.

It is amazing how human beings always are obsessed with the idea of having the opportunity to delete and forget everything they did wrong and start over. However, it is pretty obvious to me – and I believe that to you as well- this is not the answer to our problems. We need to face the fact that we are owners of our actions, and if not, destiny wanted things to happen the way they did.

I am going to give you 3 reasons you can start feeling different about your past, without the need of having a time machine to change things.

1) Your personality: There is a theory in psychology that says you have certain personality traits that define who you are. Whether you are obsessive with organize stuff or just could care less where things are, this is defined by a personality trait. As things happen in your life, you acted upon the different situations because that is your personality. If you made a mistake, you would eventually be more careful not to expose to a similar situation in the future, but you would be acting in a very specific pattern no matter what.

2) Own it: Whatever has happened in the past, you need to accept it. This means that you need to accept the things you did not do well and make something out of it. We learn the most out of our mistakes and so always be certain to accept those things that went wrong and try to change them for the future. If you ride a bike and down the street you fall off  because you did not see a big hole, next time you will be more careful to keep your eyes on the road in order to avoid falling off again for the same reason. You could easily start finding excuses on why you fell; the kid that was near you, the breaks did not work, etc. At the end, you were the one who decided to ride the bike and you were not focused on what you were doing.

3) Don’t sweat it: “Everything, at some point or another, goes away” my grandfather used to say to me. Things that are in the past will remain where they are if you make a change for the future. It is true none likes bad history, but at the end it is history that will not hunt you down forever. You always have the option of correcting things by being open and sincere with you and with others. This is the best way to stop worrying too much and start doing something about it.

“I wish I could start all over again”. We would still think about it. However, we need to make a stop in the run and manage the situation instead of just wishing for things that are not going to happen.

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